1 Corinthians 16:13 “Be on your guard; stand firm in the
faith; be courageous; be strong.”
Before we begin to look at recovery together, it’s important to lay
the foundation we’re going to build on. That foundation for me is
that I will not quit, and it’s written in stone. Several years ago,
I did exactly that…quit, I mean. And it took me places I don’t ever
want to go again. I wrote about that journey in the chapter “Rita
Came Home” in my book, So You Love a Prodigal. Believe me when I
tell you quitting will also take you places you’ll wish you hadn’t
It was a long way back from that “far country,” and I determined, by
the grace of God, I would never give up or quit on God again
regardless of what happened in my life. That resolve was put to the
ultimate test on December 19, 2016, when I received a phone call
telling me my oldest son Buddy had suffered a heart attack and was
in ICU on life support.
I only thought I knew what it meant to pray fervently before that
day. However, it took on a new meaning as I begged God for my son’s
life in a way I had never prayed for anything before. And when I
knew God’s answer was, “No,” and my son was going to die, I began to
pray with the same fervency that God would only help me to be
faithful. I had quit once before and walked away from the Lord, and
my greatest fear was I might walk away again. In that moment, like
Job, I determined in my heart that, “though he slay me, yet will I
hope in him.” (Job
It doesn’t mean my heart wasn’t broken. It was, and it still is.
Losing a child isn’t something you “get over.” I’m learning the best
I can do is try to adjust to a world that is forever changed. I
don’t understand it…how could I? However, faced with the choice of
trusting my God in the dark or raging against my fate, I will choose
to trust Him.
Recovery means finding our way back to a “normal” state. And that
includes both physically and mentally. Some synonyms include
“reclaim,” “win back,” and “compensate.” Many of those words suggest
action, and we’ll be looking at some actions we can take on our own
road to recovery. But it has to start with the right foundation.
You see, the bottom line is that God is either everything or He is
nothing…there’s no in between. If He’s nothing, we might as well
quit because there’s no hope for us. But if He’s everything, then we
can trust Him even when we don’t like the answer, and everything
within us is screaming, “This can’t possibly be God’s will.” Even
then…maybe especially then, we need to have a heart that trusts Him
enough to determine that we will not quit.
Challenge for Today: What might happen if we, just for today,
began our recovery on the firm foundation of refusing to quit?